I’m living a dream that I had about 3 years ago. I will never forget it. At the time I thought it was about my PhD, but now I know it was about my marriage-divorce. I dreamt that it was a dark stormy night. I was on a massive ship in the middle of a stormy ocean. I found myself on the deck with the crew. They were telling me that I had to jump.
Balance is a tricky business. Forget all the images you see of people sitting in lotus pose, with their sage, candles and mudras. Living in a state of balance requires macro decisions followed by dozens of simplistic micro-decisions. It might include some of the former but it’s usually not Instagrammable. I find that taking the time daily to practice gratitude for the small things changes my mood, which improves my balance. Practicing gratitude is also a way that I cultivate joy - a light that fills you with hope and faith and love.
After posting a few humorous Instagram stories about me going down with the hashtag #itstherussians or #blameitontherussians , I settled into my seat next to a Russian guy. He was incredibly kind, helped me with my bags, and didn’t moan every time I stood to use the washroom. I casually looked at his WhatsApp conversation (as you do), and saw his messages littered with heart emojis and kisses. My brain fired off a “wow, he’s just like me...”
In poker, the term all in means that a player has put the last of her chips into the pot. She can no longer perform another action because she doesn’t have any chips left. In a life transition such as a break up, divorce, or death of a loved one - to be all in often means gathering the courage to be vulnerable again.
I'm visiting Israel, Jordan and learning to cultivate joy through gratitude, mindfulness, and curiosity about all of my experiences in the Middle East. The one good thing about divorce is that it provide numerous opportunities for emotional growth. The challenge is to grow through what you go through.