Weekly Issue No°2 – What the Cat on my Terrace Taught Me About Setting Boundaries
Setting boundaries is essentially a process of saying ‘yes’ or ‘no’ to daily, weekly, monthly–lifelong propositions. I’ve been working on this concept with Cat. I call him Cat because I don’t know his name and this is one way I can pretend that I have a fabulous life like Audrey Hepburn in Breakfast at Tiffany’s. One evening, Cat started showing up on my terrace at night like a gentleman caller. He crossed a red line when he tried to force his way into my chambers. A firm “no” was ignored. I switched to the “palm of power.” Finally, I had to spritz him down with my peppermint oil and water spray bottle. That worked. But only after a few sprays. (I like to think he enjoyed the aromatherapy aspects of it).
Now when I come home in the evening, Cat dutifully waits for me on the terrace for a rub. He doesn’t try to barge his way through to the living room. He has a collar and is fat so he’s not a stray. He just comes over for late night feels. Now that I’ve established clear boundaries we can enjoy each other’s company. (Phew-all that post divorce therapy is finally paying off!)
My lessons from boundary setting is that no one gets a pass – Cat, mama, daddy, family members, romantic partners, friends – no one. Because boundaries is the stuff, that healthy relationships are made of.
A quote I’m pondering
When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated. This is why we sometimes attack who they are, which is far more hurtful than addressing a behavior or a choice ― Brené Brown, The Gifts of Imperfection
What I’ve been up to this week
What’s amusing the health geek in me
I’ve coronated the Smoothie as the seventh food group. I’ve been experimenting with different ingredients and boosters. Flax seeds is my obsession of the week because I can make hair gel from it and also because it has so many benefits for the joints – which is key for an athlete like my self. The seeds of the flax plant have loads of omega-3 and omega-6 fatty acids and lignans (beneficial plant compounds, similar to fiber), which increase satiety – the feeling of being full. Flax seeds may lower blood pressure and aid weight loss. Sounds great for a little seed.
Smoothie of the week
This week I created a lunch smoothie – Apple Avocado & Kale — with flax seeds. I try to keep my ingredients to less than five (excluding liquids). If you try it, let me know whether you like it! Here are my other smoothie recipes. Be sure to check them out.
That’s all for this week folks!
Have a wonderful week, my lovelies!