Why It Makes Sense to Fiddle in a Life Crisis
Relaxing through the ups and downs of this divorce has been a process like no other. As a yoga guide, meditation practitioner, and a believer in prayer – I have all the tools at my disposal to make a graceful exit from this Boeing jet. Still, there are days after I’ve gone though my morning routine that I still feel like I’m base jumping without a parachute. Hello anxiety, depression, anger … my long lost friends. Where you been?!
I was talking to my divorce coach about this and she reminded me of what I already know, but doesn’t come easy for me. She reminded me of the need to just sit still for some time each day and do nothing. The doing nothing is the space where all the magic happens. It’s here that the grounding practices of journaling, yoga, meditation, and seeking a higher power integrate into an Avenger like force.
What Crisis Managers & Divorce Coaches Have in Common
Crisis management experts espouse similar beliefs. When a company faces a crisis, experts advise leaders to resist the urge to do anything immediately. This is because their fight-flight -freeze response has kicked in. When this happens, people don’t do their best thinking. It’s therefore possible that firsts instincts may be wrong.
I’ve found that practices such as yoga and meditation, are grounding and work on the parasympathetic nervous system. Instead of operating in fight-flight-or freeze — I am reminded of movement that soothes the soul. I heavily rely on these practices to survive and thrive. Who knew that getting your life back on track after a divorce is probably one of the most momentous spiritual tasks you’ll ever face?
Trust me, the irony of a divorce coach and a crisis manager advising from the same play book is not lost on me. For me, it’s about finding the courage to be still for a few minutes, one day at a time.
I Want to Hear From You
Has anyone else experienced this? Can you recall where you’ve done everything you think you’re supposed to do, still you’re only feeling about 80%? I want to hear from you! Send me a private message, or sound off below.